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Don’t Hate Us For Being Beautiful

February 23, 2025 By admin

Hans and Frans pump you upThat’s right. We’re pretty and we’re handsome and there’s nothing you younger whippersnappers can do about it. We are the kings and queens of the self-care economy. According to a Bank of America report boomers are killing it when it comes to how much we spend on wellness. In their report they declare that “one generation rises far above the rest,” and that would be us.

The report indicates that we are splurging on salons and beauty products like there’s no tomorrow. Wait. There may not be a tomorrow for some of us, so why shouldn’t we at least look good. Boomer spending at stores such as Sephora and Ulta Beauty grew 7% over last year and we’re racking up expenses at fitness clubs as well.

What’s behind all the spending? The report indicates that boomers have the money and they’re happy to part with it if it makes them look and feel better. Makes me remember the buff guys on Saturday Night Live that “are here to buff you up. Because if you don’t look good, we don’t look good.” Or Billy Crystal’s imitation of Fernando Lamas….”It is better to look good than to feel good. And you look maahvalous!”

This look good trend has come along just as research regarding lifestyle habits, like exercising, reducing stress, and taking care of mental health can reduce the risk of chronic conditions and help people age well. Just the news that boomers in their sixties and seventies want to hear. A McKinsey report from last year found that 60% of consumers found it very or extremely important to spend money on longevity.

Here’s a phrase you’re going to hear more often – longevity tourism. Take a cruise and get botox or stem cells while you’re lounging on the afterdeck. All part of what they like to call the longevity market. Do I have to tell you who’s signing up for these?

Jay Harrison is a writer and creative consultant for DesignConcept. His newest mystery novel, Rio Puerco Demise is available on Amazon. His first mystery novel, Head Above Water, is also available on Amazon. But that’s not all. You can also purchase the Best of BoomSpeak on Amazon.

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Happiness vs Gratitude

February 23, 2025 By admin

wooden seesawMy husband and I decided to bring gratitude into our lives everyday by naming three things that made us grateful that day. In the beginning, and still often, Mark names the same three things, “My sweetie, my dog, my home.” But sometimes he ventures into new territory, “I got the lawn mowed today” or, “I finished cleaning the garage.”

I can see that getting those things done makes him happy, I’m just not sure the feeling is the same as gratitude. Without a doubt, happiness and gratitude are connected. They are like twins, very similar, often found in each other’s company but, different in deep and meaningful ways.

Feelings of happiness, though frequently accompanying gratitude, are deeply personal and often connected to an accomplishment or something manifested. It is not a gift and doesn’t lift you out of yourself or connect you with something bigger. I will feel happy when I finish this essay or sit down to a nice meal I cooked. It is surely worth noticing happiness in life, but it isn’t the same as being aware of gratitude.

Gratitude moments are transpersonal, bigger than the little “I” self. They stun you with their depth and beauty, they leave you awestruck and feeling lucky to be alive and conscious of the moment. A school yard of laughing toddlers, the smell of coffee gently drifting into the bedroom, a good thick acorn fall, all quicken gratitude into my heart. There was nothing I did to create acorns, or toddlers, or to influence what coffee smells like. All those events were simply gifts. There are no feelings of accomplishment to them, there is just gratitude to whomever, wherever.

My sixty-fifth birthday is coming soon. I will be very happy sharing a table full of food with family and friends. I will be grateful to have those family and friends to share the meal with.

Lauri Rose lives in the mountains of CA with a neurotic lab, a handy husband and eight geriatric chickens.

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Unabashed

February 23, 2025 By admin

A naked child frolics in the waves of the surf.As my husband and I walk back to our boat after a long day of touring, we skirt the town’s public beach. My gaze rests on a family of five. The mother and grandmother wade in the waves, holding their gauze skirts up to their knees. The father, pants rolled up above his calves, stands where the waves break. Two brothers kick a soccer ball back and forth, scamper in and out of the waves. One is a sandy blond, the other a strawberry blond. I would call them three and five, perhaps four and six. They are buck naked, suggesting their romp in the Aegean waters off the coast of Crete is an unplanned frolic.

I remember a different beach of over sixty years ago as pebbly under my shoeless feet, the waves as tingly against my bare ankles, the ocean as chilling against my naked torso. My sister and I shrieked as we jumped in and out of the waves that seemed so big but no doubt really weren’t, our arms waving wildly in the air. She was the dark brunette, I the platinum blonde. We were five and three, and we were meeting an ocean — the North Sea, off the coast of Germany — for the first time. On shore stood our parents, watching and holding our clothes, wanting us to have fun and be safe (I now surmise) but loathe to participate, modest natives of the Kansas prairies that they were. Those moments formed my first memory of a thrill in my body, bliss in my soul.

My husband and I pause as he too watches the young swimmers. As we resume our walk, I tell him that I have half a mind to strip down to my underclothes and jump in the waves. He is a Southern California native who body-surfed the Pacific as I bobbed in the Atlantic in our childhood years. He says he shares my impulse. But we are American retirees on a Road Scholar trip to Greece, not shameless youngsters anymore. As we make our way back to our boat, we are mindful that we are expected in a few minutes for the Greek night presentation on board: dancing! music! Yet. Yet. There may be towels on the boat’s sundeck; the azure Aegean waves beckon; we can look up a video of Greek dancing.

Deborah Schmedemann

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Now What?

February 9, 2025 By admin

Keep On Truckin cartoonBoomers are moving into to the now what? phase.

Our bodies are, shall we say, disappointing us on a more frequent basis. One day it’s an eye infection and the next day it’s a hitch in the hip (yes, another one). What’s going on?

If you were at the car dealer for routine maintenance they would simply tell you that it’s normal part wear. That’s right. Your body is just like a car. As the mileage rolls up on the odometer, life’s wear and tear starts to add up. The problem is that you cannot replace limbs as easily as putting on new tires or just changing the oil or the mysterious cabin filter that every car service rep will tell you needs to be replaced (for $75).

If you’re counting on one hand the number of aches and pains you’ve decided you can live with, then you know exactly what we’re talking about here. Sore knee? It’s not so bad that you stop hiking. Cataracts? Stop driving at night. For every ailment there’s an excuse to keep on moving. And that’s as it should be, otherwise we would never get out of bed.

Speaking of getting out of bed…that’s when you take inventory of what will hurt today. Worse, it could be when you realize there’s a new pain that was not there when you went to bed. I hate that.

What are we supposed to do about this sensation that we’re trapped in the now what phase? In the words (and cartoons) of R. Crumb, we just need to Keep On Truckin! Facing life’s challenges unbowed, we need to sustain that forward momentum, that optimism that characterized the baby boomer generation that still lives on, navigating the troubled waters of our current social and political upheaval, so that we just KEEP ON TRUCKIN!!

Phew! Did not realize the power of those words. It won’t be easy to exchange “now what” for keep on truckin, but what other choice is there? Resilience is all we’ve got going for us and that may be just enough to get us through the hard times brought on by our physical deterioration.

No other option. We can do this.

Jay Harrison is a writer and creative consultant for DesignConcept. His newest mystery novel, Rio Puerco Demise is available on Amazon. His first mystery novel, Head Above Water, is also available on Amazon. But that’s not all. You can also purchase the Best of BoomSpeak on Amazon.

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Opposite of Bored

February 9, 2025 By admin

candy storeYou know the age old question for retirees. What do you do all day? If you find the idea of being bored in retirement preposterous, this post might be for you.

My thinking on this subject has morphed since I started watching Astrid on PBS Masterpiece. The show features a brilliant autistic woman named Astrid who works in criminal records and is recruited by a detective to help solve crimes. It’s French with subtitles, which I hardly notice.

Her autism bugged me at first, but I grew more comfortable with it as the series and the characters evolved. Wouldn’t it be great if it worked that way in real life? You spend some time with a person, get to know them and maybe they don’t seem so damn odd after all. One can hope.

A common characteristic of people with autism is the special interest, which is an intense hyper-focus area that brings joy and helps them stay centered. To some, a special interest may come across as obsessive, but a few of us out here might be envious.

I’m talking about we, the people, who have too many interests and sometimes have difficulty focusing. As for me, I’ve spent a lot of time and dropped a fair chunk of change on things that interested me … for a while.

Retirement changes the game. The good news is we have time and hopefully enough money to dabble, and sometimes we’re like kids in a candy store. It’s exciting to think, what do I want to try next? But then you realize time doesn’t last forever, and it’s a fixed income, anyway, so you can’t get stupid with it.

I already have plenty of interests, but every now and then I’m tempted by some new shiny object. Sewing is one. I used to jump for it, but now that I’m older and wiser, I start thinking about the start-up costs, learning curve, space requirements, time commitment – and I get stuck.

Like Astrid, do I need something to stay centered? She inspired me to think about my current hobbies as special interests. Plural. These are the activities that have stood the test of time. Instead of spreading myself too thin, I want to make the most of what I know is sustainable.

One of the joys of retirement is that you can throw rigid schedules out the window, and I relish my laid back lifestyle. That said, it’s time to focus on my special interests in a more mindful way. Pay more attention to the details.

Donna Pekar is an aging badass (for real) who lives in California and writes Retirement Confidential.

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Lists

February 9, 2025 By admin

the ghost of king hamlet under a full moonWe like them, don’t we, “things to do” scribbled on memo pads or the backs of envelopes, tapped into our phones? We log the birds we’ve spotted, keep track of foods to avoid, note which Lego sets we’ve given the grandkids the past few Christmases. Each December we flip through magazines with their Ten Best this, Ten Worst that, Ten Most Everything Else of the year, listings ephemeral as our resolutions.

“List, list, O list!” says the ghost of Hamlet’s father, sounding more like Walt Whitman revving up for one of his poetic catalogues than a specter in medieval Denmark. And though I realize the ghost is urging his son to “listen,” I can’t help muttering the line whenever life seems but one inventory or listicle after another.

When I worked at a bookstore decades ago we sold copy after copy of The Book of Lists, four hundred pages no one, it seemed, could do without. You could look up the most intelligent breeds of dogs, history’s stupidest criminals, the worst places to hitchhike in the U.S., even the most common misquotes from Shakespeare. (King Hamlet’s ghost was on that list, I think). The book went through several editions, sequels, spin-offs. They make quite a list of their own by now.

At my age, I’m supposed to have a Bucket List—languages to learn and world capitals yet to see, skydiving lessons to sign up for, friends and exes I should re-connect with. But there’s no roster in my head, no table of names or places, nor any set of bullet points reminding me of risks untaken. I have no great compulsion to etch my name among those who have scaled some fearsome cliff, no annal in which I’ve sought a mention. (I’d rather quaff a Guinness than try to make it into that book of lists.)

“Don’t make the national news,” my wife Sharon likes to say in concluding her list of reminders whenever someone in our family is about to travel. Much more adventurous than I (see skydiving, above, not to mention ziplining through the treetops of a national forest), she nevertheless is like me in preferring a place among the countless anonymous, those Z-listers far out of the spotlight, whole city blocks from the red carpet. No wonder, after all these years, she’s still at the top of my list.

James Scruton lives in McKenzie, TN

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